People often choose to spend time alone and find it pleasurable and positive, but loneliness is not the same as being alone. Loneliness can produce feelings of anxiety, worthlessness and a lack of motivation. Such feelings can also prevent one from developing healthy relationships.
Lonely people believe “Everyone else has friends” or “There must be something wrong with me.”
In fact, a wide range of life events can trigger loneliness. Examples include the death of a loved one, divorce, a breakup of a longstanding relationship, relocation to a new city or losing a job. Loneliness can also occur within relationships where there is anger, resentment or when love is not given, acknowledged or shown.
Negative Effects of Loneliness
- Play a part in alcoholism
- Disrupt normal sleep patterns
- Interfere with learning
- Lead to clinical depression.
How is Loneliness Described?
There are many descriptions of loneliness such as feeling:
- A lack of bonding with people around you
- Disconnected from others
- There is no one in your life who really cares
- Left out
How Therapy Can Help You Overcome Loneliness
A therapist can help you:
- Understand the underlying causes of your problem such as childhood experiences or your family’s style of interacting, for example
- Address negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs
- Explore alternative approaches to your daily living and behaviors that will allow you to become more available to those around you
- Address communication styles, which often contribute to loneliness